Can dilemmas, trilemmas, or any number of difficult choices be descriptive of all the difficult problems people face in life? Part of my work brings me to see families that have lost a parent, and the single parent is suddenly faced with the burden of deciding on things that the spouse used to take care of. I think to place all the "blame" on Dilemma can be rather unfair. Sometimes, Dilemma is created out of the feelings of desperation, of being ill-equipped, of lack of confidence. Perhaps Dilemma walked into life because of the vacuum left by the departed spouse.
Time seems to be a factor that helps a person cope. I keep recalling how Time and Space are often linked in the discourse of Science. With the passing of Time, there is creation of Space. And the finding of Space also provides Time for Healing. What does Healing encompass? Is it finding emotional stability, lessening of pain, or recovery to a previous desired state? Most people would recognize Healing when the grieving or hurt party resumes "normal" life. Things can and do appear "normal" but it would be wise to check with the person, after all, things can be better than "normal" too.
Time seems to be a factor that helps a person cope. I keep recalling how Time and Space are often linked in the discourse of Science. With the passing of Time, there is creation of Space. And the finding of Space also provides Time for Healing. What does Healing encompass? Is it finding emotional stability, lessening of pain, or recovery to a previous desired state? Most people would recognize Healing when the grieving or hurt party resumes "normal" life. Things can and do appear "normal" but it would be wise to check with the person, after all, things can be better than "normal" too.
